Hallucinations…

It is a very famous saying in India:

Sab Moh Maya Hai !!

Generally, it is misunderstood as boycotting all objectively pleasures and riches of life such as assets, relations, love, sex, fame, money and living a life full of simplicity and a saint.

That’s not the truth. It simply means never letting your assets and other comforting things in your life becoming the reason for nuisance and discomfort. Never let yourself so attach to anything that u love it more than your own existence. Your happiness, success, love, present .these all are in you in your present.Dont hustle so badly for past or future that u forgot to live satisfactorily and peacefully with the present . We don’t own past and future, we don’t control, something which is right here is this moment, this breath, this life. No one can take away this from you.

I had live in depression for a year and its consequences still, i face. I was so focused on daydreaming a perfect future that I forgot to hustle in my present leading me out of the race for success. Future is an illusion without preparation. I try to please me with every temporary pleasure but nothing satisfies me. I lower my standards and respect to trying to make fake sort of people as friends so as to avoid loneliness. I chase everything others were having (boyfriend, money, love, good skin n all) forgetting and taking for granted what I actually possess( small group of good friends, knowledge, my individuality, loving family, goals, opportunity to succeed )but the hunt for outer pleasures was never getting over and deep down I was broke n lost. With time i envy more n more of others and want everything they have and lose everything of mine.

But one day while lying down on my couch, I try to feel that moment and try to live it unconditionally. That moment was so peaceful and complete and make me wonder that everything was so worthless chasing, all I wanted was right there (comfort, peace,loyalty) but I wasn’t looking at it.

Guys! our treasure is our present moment. Try to find it. Live it. Accept it.

 

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Motivational Quotes for women

Its an old saying:

” The most common way women give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”

It is 21st century we talk of democracy, liberty, gender equality, gadgets, unity and peace.But none of these mathches a women situation in our society. She has got the right to educate, work, travel, speak publicly, contesting elections, wearing whatever she want or any other thing a men can do but still women voice is supressed, she dont feel safe hanging out, still there is violence in her life,she get low pay, women to ratio in military,eduaction, cooperative world is still much  less. Why? What’s  stopping us?

A successful person never blames his circumstances, background, neighour, luck etc. He lives his  life in a grateful manner. May be it is the lack of opportunities? Again no blame to it. So what is it?

It is the pessimist inner voice, a chattering mind saying No to everything. It is lack of motivation and belief on youself and a will to say “I CAN ” to problems. Every one got some problems but it is your choice to focus on what- opportunity or excuses.

  • Fear is just an emotion . Dont let it play with you. Before you there are 1000’s of women who got sucessful and after you there will many more. Dream-Work-Achieve, U are child of supreme, noone can stop u. Not even U can.

Daydreaming!

She turned her can’t into cans and her dreams into plans.

We all have dreams. After all, a Dream is a wish which our heart makes. Some desired to be someone, some dream for assets or some just daydream. Dreams are only a series of dynamic thoughts in our mind. They provide a vision but they don’t work unless you DO. But daydreaming is all about fooling yourself with a desire which have nothing to do with the reality.

People generally mistook understanding their dreams as daydreaming. No one dreams of a flying fish but its daydreaming is possible. There is difference between dreams and daydreaming which successful people knows well.A Dream is a  vision which is  accompanied by self-motivation to work for a goal completion. But daydreams have nothing to do with action. the whole plot for desire just remain in your mind and you spend your life in its planning , plotting and  convincing yourself that you will get it one day without taking any action for it. Something which is not practically possible to happen  but our mind and heart is webbed with that illusion is Daydream.

Daydreams allured your mind. It is a fantasy world with only an entry but no exit. they are just distractions, sometimes in form of fears or  worries of past or future. No one ever dreams of serials, movie plots, tragedy,diseases, being a super-man, spider-man, vampire,dancer,musician,doctor in a day,etc. All those things which have nothing to do with reality are Daydreams. Theses are no dreams. Dreams come with a way to make them happen.

So,next time. No need to be afraid when someone says NO to your vision. because you know it ,you are  not daydreaming. Dreams are meant to be true.

Choose your dreams wisely….

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Avoid Distractions!

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Distractions are everywhere. Mind is a thinking faculty. It is its job to think and create thoughts and that’s okay but it is your job to not let your mind over rule you and so hence your life.Its ironical dreamers dreaming to overrule big empires cant even overrule themselves. They wanna shoot stars but can’t focus. obviously, They will miss target.

Its my favourite quote from Evan’s Almighty.
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Yes! it  only ONE SHOT ,only once given. Past is no more the present and present will not be the future. What we have today is this moment, this breathe, this life, this opportunity, which nobody can take away from you right now. What’s stopping you to be your better version.

Thoughts, Worries, Fears, Distractions! come on,Be practical and logical. Distractions are only piece of thoughts which exist only in your mind. They have nothing to do with the real world.  Dont give them shelter in your mind. Everything which don’t add to your goals,account and happiness are not worth it to be with.

May be your worries,fears,distractions are genuine and your present work is so boring . Hence its hard to focus.

So,what about making a bold decision to accept present ,live in it and working ahead with a broad perceptive and vision in mind that what i am doing , my future will definately thank me for it.Will this help?

It is always hard to make choices but life is only about choices. We all got 24 hrs a day.Some make millions in it and some a few. we choose what we become. So, I am going to give you very efficient tips to avoid distractions. But before that lets take a moment and just notice your breathe……. Are you breathing?

Miraculously yes! …

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Tips :-

  • Keep a  journal with you. Write what’s distracting you. According to a survey, thoughts fade away on writing about them. Embrace your emotions.
  • Dont judge your thoughts, the more you judge, the more you will be engaged with them.
  • Set time-table, priorities and work accordingly. Give your worries and distractions 1 hr a day to work on them. Try to find solutions to the problems distracting you in that time so as u feel most productive for rest of 23 hrs.
  • Don’t procrastinate. Work onto your goals. Remind yourself again n again about them.
  • Set timer to a your work,so as every time you wander off, it notifies you and you could tell yourself. ” Dude! it is just a thought. Dont overthink.”
  • Set deadlines and  and announce it publicly. People generally work harder to avoid public embracement
  • take breaks. I mean real breaks. Internet n all just exhaust us more. Listen to  music,play something, go out for a walk, nap, play etc.
  • Meditate. It took only 5 min and for rest 1 hr you are productive.
  • If its Fb, text, snapchat n all turn them off for a while. posts are  not going anywhere but this moment will.
  • dont multitask. Again n again make a choice. Set priorities.

Might be, you have tried many of these but they dont work.So,what should we do now. Are distractions unavoidable? will i always remain average? How come billiniores out there are so focused,successful? What is their secret of success?

Trust me friend its not their luck or any other x-factor. It was their choice that which they made to work when others were partying, building relations ,travelling,drugging, bullying others, gossiping, daydreaming,procrastinating, texting and posting humors. They choose to save those every  moments of their life to work on thier goals and visions. They choose a different life ,so as they get. 

These tips wont work until you work onto your attitude and thinking. All what u need is in the present and within you. Change your vison to the world ,it will change your world.

divergingroads Choice is simple. Choose without any regret. I trust u.

Yes! I daydream. MY story…..

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Today we live in the 21st century where Things evolves at a fast pace. The Past is no more the Present and Present won’t be the future. There are so many inventions, discoveries are made from stone age till date. The once seem unsolvable mysteries of space, time, traveling etc are now solved.We have cure and preventions for many once incurable and even undetectable diseases. It all once begin from a vision and look today we are on mars.

But do we stop here?  No! there is no ending to science and discoveries. Great ideas born every day and are conquered too. So, why there is no cure of DAYDREAM. Y can’t we just live fully focused in reality?

In medical sciences, Daydream is just a distraction by visionary fantasies and If you daydream for long then it is Maladaptive Daydreaming.

But for daydreamers like me, It is more an ADDICTION than a distraction. Past memories and future desires get so stack up in us that we are so prisoned of them that what is PRESENT we even don’t know.I daydream since my childhood.Earlier it was about kings, princesses, serial characters, my goals.I dream so as to feel good and remain distracted from my parent’s abusive relationship.But soon it becomes my habit and in my college I end up being in a depression for a year.I lose all my friends, my grades went low, I was leading an aimless life, ill-focused, with no goals, no direction, no care for future.I only feel comfortable in my own world where things work according to me.I am the BOSS there. I was making wrong choices and was on a wrong path.  I had been so used to live a luring life in my mind that I don’t want to face downs of my life.So, I was facing consequences of taking no action in life.

I googled and read more on daydreaming so as to better understand it. But one page of Wikipedia and some references from it cant define my situation. I joined some online communities where I got to know I was not the alone daydreamer. Like me, there are 1000’s there who was sick of it. In medical science, this disorder has some stupid drugs as a solution. So clubbing it all Daydreaming is basically bad as what they say.But I was not completely satisfy with it.

Daydreaming is a gift for those who know to play well with their minds, Who knows well balancing of life and fantasies. There are great scientists, visionaries, entrepreneurs, politicians, athletes who use daydreaming to being a better person. Who predicted many theories, solved many problems with it.Reading about their achievements I always wonder, How can daydreamin g be bad. I started fooling me  if it work for them then it will too work for me. But i was wrong.

Half knowledge is always  dangerous. They dream a vision, set goals and work. What i was doing was just dreaming.  Mind is our thinking faculty. letting your mind take over you and believing every illusion and thought it creates , is a big  mistake. As an old saying,

“What u sow, so shall u reap ! ” .

With years, I was filling my mind with negative thoughts of love, anger, revenge, lonliness, sex, heartbreaks, ghosts as what i was watching,i was dreaming more and more on it. I generally get plot for dreaming from music , serials, movies. We people are never acceptable to the things the way they are. If film got an unsatisfactory ending, we daydream for a different one. If its any rough love, tragedy, break-ups, violent scenes, such plots never leave our mind. So, as a result i was becominging a more insecure ,fearful, depressing, lonely , narrow minded and an overthinker. I live the life of a looser for an year.I spent days watching serials ,reading their o.S.  I have no idea of time ,how its passing by and what clutter i was filling my mind with. My mind always chatter nonsence non-stop and  negative.Major heartbreak was feeling lonely in college and my loosed attention from studies. Girl once being 96% in CBSE is on 70%.I wanted to run away, so I change places,travel more and more But nothing changed.My mind still the same.

So one day i said to me it has to stop somewhere Apporva. Till how long u will not embrace your life,your  present and your family. 6 monts back i come here at my aunt’s place and things started changing. I finally got a real family,people who care me and love me unconditionally.Staring months was not easy.I was so weak ,got migraine problems, feel so afraid while travelling.I try to handle it by my way by reading self-help books, trying to think good.But i was not getting self-control.so,I got into a meditation center where I met my angel. Tips she gives me to change my life.

She introduces me to myself , who I am really (an indestructible soul) and builds my relation with God(who is a best friend,father er, brother, moth er, lover, he is all in one. ).No matter what, i know i survive this all because of him.He is a true friend, never gonna leave my side ever. I started feeling secure and protected. I learn mediation which calm my mind. I started focusing on reading good and listening good which nurture my mind which postivity. She and  I counsel me to try to find why i daydream, What sort of things i daydream and when and for how long. It is important to understand that u are not your mind and always be practical in life. Daydreaming fish to fly one day is stupidity. Most importantly i start keeping myself busy  in my study and work. since being productive feels good. I pray and in a month following this shedule of (meditation,healthy diet, reading,listening, work goals, exercise), my life is changed now. I dont go on any drugs. I change my lens to world and it change my world. I found secret to sucess .

So I advice u, there is no tomorrow. Its only this moment. Nothing can ever be achieved if u just keep on planning it perfectly in your mind. Go out, make some mistakes, take some action ,that what’s important.To be successful, a vision and a consecutive action is important. U need to detach yourself from your mind and thoughts. If any thought come to your mind,dont judge it .gently bring your attention back to your work.Don’t judge.Figure out what sort of daydreams u have, if its about health, be slim,be better musician, actor, bussiness man, lover. Dont keep on dreaming. It wont come out of your mind and get true. You need to work for it like u never ever done before.Dont overthink. Set a goal with a deadline,prepare and be it. Most importantly talk with u once a day, You are the only one who knows you the best.U will get guidance from within you what you are dreaming is merely an illusion,a lie you stupidly believing or a true. What u belive or think , so as u become.

Now still I sometimes daydream but to be a strong and confident woman. I suffer and survive but no matter what It is my journey, my own.I am the CEO of my life. I believe in you, more then u do on you. I know like me u can too soon get over with it. That’s why i am telling you my secret to sucess. Its “LOVE”.It is the most strongest potion of all times. It is undeceivable . Love yourself unconditionally .Love your weakness and strengths. love your past and present,memories,family and everything related to u. Since these all are yours and only yours. Love is in YOU. Love will heal you .This will help you settle with present and a bright future. Dear, Show the world the way to love u by loving u. I love me.

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